So far what is the most used social networking site? straight up, first place: Facebook

Facebook has provided us many valuable services, applications, privacy, and allows us to use their site to promote events, clubs, parties, views and opinions. It has let us to connect, meet and socialize with people better, and it ensure privacy settings for different sets of people.

Facebook offers us the following things:

• Privacy within and for sets of people

• Interactive Graphical User Interface

• Applications for fun or boredom

• Addictive, interesting games

• Allows us to promote anything and everything

• Allows us to speak and comment on opinions through notes

But as much as Facebook is fun, new, interesting, different, awesome, helpful and updated, some people misuse it’s contents and freedom. Some people tarnish the image of something so beautiful for their own benefit or because of jealousy. And some people just do not know how to use it in the proper way!

The reason why this topic was bought up was because of what is seen today. I have personally seen status as such, ” Rachel Smith is in the toilet.” or “Rachel Smith is off to Aussie.” Or “Rachel smith is about to have a wash.” Not only is it yucky, but it is called misuse of service. It is absolutely true that you can say anything you want and like in your status messages; It’s freedom of speech, but when you really look at it, it is like stating your whole daily routines: what you do, what you eat, what you wear, every step of the day. This becomes a hackers way of taking away your identity. Trust me, people do NOT like to read such statuses. Who wants to know the most intimate details about you or your lifestyle? Maybe your boyfriend, but the rest of the world.

It is absolutely true that Facebook has given us the rights to do anything within our boundaries, but we have to know what is ethical and what is not. Facebook is not going to give you your life code of conduct. It is supposed to come with your package from birth. These are not the only crazy things we see today.We come across various fan pages, groups and events that are left empty or inactive. By doing so, you are wasting precious storage space. We also come across ridiculous competitons that take away a person’s privacy. Recently, I came across this competition called the Miss and Master Facebook Sri Lanka 2010. It is a competition that automatically registers you, and if you are good looking enough then you wil be selected as one of the contestants. After that, the nation votes for you. The best part is you have no idea you are in the competition until you see your picture; This results in privacy being taken away. Not only do they take away your privacy, there selection of women and men are bad too!

It is true engough Facebook has not set up copy right protection laws, but we users join Facebook thinking that though protection laws are not set up, people will have more common sense and understanding about privacy, and not invade them. This shows the standard of people.

Do not misue it’s service and rights. Our lives revolve around the shades of it. Though. maybe rights are not given, just do not misuse it. Think about how it will affect other people. More than profits and fans, people lives and privacy is way more priceless.

written by Rashika Fazali

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle,When 24 Hours in a day is not enough,Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.A professor stood before his philosophy classAnd had some items in front of him.When the class began, wordlessly,He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jarand proceeded to fill it with golf balls.He then asked the students, if the jar was full.They agreed that it was.The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and pouredthem into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls.He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.’Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,’I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.The golf balls are the important things – family,children, health, Loved ones, and Favorite passions –Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full.The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.The sand is everything else –The small stuff.’If you put the sand into the jar first,’ He continued,’there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.The same goes for life.If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff,You will never have room for the things that are important to you.So…Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.Play With your children.Take time to get medical checkups.Take your partner out to dinner.

Spend some time with your Parents.There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.’Take care of the golf balls first –The things that really matter.Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.’One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.The professor smiled.’I'm glad you asked’.It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’ When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle, When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, Remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.  A professor stood before his philosophy class. And had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students, if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open Areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’ The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. ’Now,’ said the professor, as the laughter subsided,  ’I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things – family, children, health, Loved ones, and Favorite passions –Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else –The small stuff.  ’If you put the sand into the jar first,’ He continued, ’there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, You will never have room for the things that are important to you. So… Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Play With your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend some time with your Parents. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. ’Take care of the golf balls first – The things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. ‘One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled.  ’I'm glad you asked’.  It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem,  there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.’

Trust...

We all trust in each other and we believe in each other…. We meet people in our life everyday. Some of them stay with us forever while some just vanish away from your life.. At times it may be the most unexpected person in your life, who will stand by you when you need someone so desperately by your side. While the most expected, will just seem to be nowhere near you. This is how the world revolves around.

It’s pretty much obvious that none of us can stand alone and live in this world. No one can live in isolation. We all need each other for our distinct survival. That’s the same reason which made this world a cruel place to live in. If you take the majority, they come to you to get their job done, once they get it done, they are off. When you are trying to climb up the ladder of success, they pull you down from your leg and get you down and they get up. This is the sad but yet, the ugly truth. I’m not pointing out that each and every person is like this, but in general if you look at the world in a broader view, this is what you can see.

We all have emotions. We all care for our loved ones. We are compelled by our own conscience to trust each other when we get closer and closer. But are we doing the right thing when we start trusting the person next to us? Who knows for what he/she is standing right next to you? This is where people really wish that they had the power to read each others minds. It may sound childish and like a part of a fairy tale movie, but being a human and being covered by emotions, this is what any person who may call themselves the strongest, would wish for, deep down inside.

Even the smallest thing may seem so big, when a hitch in your trust comes up. It’s unavaoidable. Its natural. But being given a life by nature/god is the biggest gift any person can get, and lets not make a hitch in trust, ruin up this wonderful and magical life which has been given to us. Life is a whole big challenge, and all of us are naturally talented to overcome all those problems which comes up infront of us, nomatter what it is, ranging from a Tsunami to being disabled, we all have the courage to stand up. Afterall, what’s the point of living your life if you dont have a challenge to overcome and the satisfaction you gain after you do it? That’s what you really call living your life to the fullest. What I wanna say through all of these is that you should trust in yourself more than anything else. You never know what life has in store for you and you never know how and when it will come up on you and hit you in your back. There are people whom we can trust and who will never break up. But it takes time to figure out who and where they are, and as i have mentioned earlier, it may be the most unexpected person in your life.

We all fall down in our lives at some point and at that point we should learn how to stand up straight on our own. Not with the help of anyone else. We should first start believing in ourselves and start trusting ourselves before trusting anyone else. Then we should start getting up. You may fall over and over again. But nomatter how much you fall you will try to get up. It may be 100 times, it may be 200 times or it may be some uncountable number of times, but despite how many times it is, the more you try the more you succeed. For an example, just imagine a soldier who has lost his legs due to the war. His life has been a misery eversince. But he never gives up hope. He falls. But despite the fact that he falls and knowing that down there he has no help to get up, he never gives up. He uses his hands to get up.

Help is always there for the ones who need it in whichever way it can be. Also despite the fact that this world is a cruel place to live in, exceptions do prevail. Rather than trusting on other people, first you should trust on yourself. That’s when you will find trust in other people. That’s when you will understand what life really is……………

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